Raise the Bar

This is not a post about being hyper independent so that you can minimize the potential of being hurt by others. Pump your brakes babe. This is a mindset shift that I had to go through to help me build confidence. So if you’re looking to change your mindset keep reading. 

I was doing some self reflection, and I realized that had 3 major flaws that kept me from being confident in my self. I was walking around pretending to be a happy and healthy, but really I was full of fear and self doubt. These three flaws had me in a chokehold, but we are working on loosening their grip and moving towards a higher vibration. When we raise the bar a little higher we raise our vibration a little higher. Over the next 3 weeks we will explore these concepts. Let’s get to the list and to Week 1 of Raise the Bar. 

1. I was too easily impressed by things that were obviously mediocre. 
2. I thought more about what other people were thinking about me than what I was thinking about me. 
3. I rarely thought about me. 

Let’s start with #1. Being easily impressed is not the real issue, the obviously mediocre is. I think it is beautiful to hear inspiring stories of people changing lives, influencing the community, and helping the world around us. These stories inspire me to be a better version of myself. I read, almost exclusively, book about and by inspiring people. I keep the company of inspiring people. These are the kinds of people that you ooo and awe for when they pull out their phone and show you pictures from their last act of rebellion. These people set the bar high, but somehow I was easily impressed by the “friend” that got lunch with me or the “man” that kinda seemed interested. 

There is so much more to being a friend than grabbing lunch together. Friends show up when there is no charcuterie board. They actually help buy the meats and cheeses, help clean the dishes, and crack open the bottle of wine to celebrate an empty sink. They remember important dates and details about your life. You remember these things about them and do the same for them. Friends don’t just get lunch for the 30min company mandated time. Friends are there after hours and when you’re trying on outfits for your new job. Your “man” is not just a guy that seems interested in you. Your man is the guy that puts in effort to spend time with you. Your man is reliable and doesn’t leave you with more questions than answers. Your man knows how special you are and how lucky he is to have you. The bar needs to be higher girly. You should not be head over hills about a guy that cannot even spell your name correctly. (I don’t care what your name is, if a man likes you he will learn to spell it) When the bar is higher we realize that we deserve better than mediocrity. We deserve extraordinary. We deserve fairytales and sitcoms. We deserve besties and dream men.